Comments on: Strippers and Pole Dancing http://poleskivvies.com/2009/05/strippers-and-pole-dancing/ Workout wear by pole dancers, for pole dancers. Wed, 08 Sep 2010 16:19:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Amy http://poleskivvies.com/2009/05/strippers-and-pole-dancing/comment-page-1/#comment-993 Amy Mon, 16 Aug 2010 18:35:52 +0000 http://poleskivvies.com/?p=1357#comment-993 I am so glad I found this... again, I know I'm very late but I just felt like I had to comment. I just started taking pole classes two months ago and I love them! I really am not sure why I started. I think I was partly curious and also saw a friend on facebook who's in Med School with her display pic as her on a pole. I think I said "Hey.. I've heard of this. I bet I can do it, too!" but I really don't know. Anyway, lately I've been having the argument with a vecry good male friend of mine about the pole dancer versus stripper. I showed him the video on youtube of the highlights from the USPD championships and his first response was "Come on... they're all strippers". It made me so mad!! Why did they all have to be strippers?? Just because someone dances doesn't mean they strip and vice versa. Judging by this blog it looks like I was right on that point, at least. Since then, I've become a little bit more comfortable with the idea of those professional dancers also being strippers. Why not? I think the big problem is not just society's perception, but the female perception of stripping. For me, anyway (I'm in my early 20s, so no, I'm not 100% confident in myself), I think of strippers and strip clubs and I think to myself "what do they have that I don't?" and I start to get pretty insecure. Sure, I'm pretty, but my boobs aren't big and I sometimes struggle with my weight. That's just the way it is. And I think that some women (myself included, at times) get insecure that their men go to strip clubs for entertainment. I honestly do think that's why some of them go- pure entertainment. I have absolutely no problem with that. I wouldn't even really be bothered with my boyfriend getting a lapdance. My problem is with those performers who take it to the next level. A female friend of mine was taken out to a very popular strip club in downtown Toronto this weekend and was bought 10 minutes worth of lap dances by her male coworkers. They got her the "bustiest" girl there, who then proceeded to push her boobs in her face, and throughout the dance tried to shove her "hooha" (my friend's words, not mine) in her face and also gave herself the shocker!! And let me make it clear that this friend did NOT appreciate this! It's stories like this that make me wary of strip clubs. I KNOW not all strippers are like this, and I am NOT putting them in all the same category. But this was happening in the CLASSY part of this strip club. For me, anyway, I can just picture a guy in the same situation and I'm pretty sure he wouldn't be sitting there getting traumatized like she was. I will be the first to admit I have never been to s strip club and I do not know what the norm is, but her story really bothered me. I am much more comfortable being lumped in with strippers, if that's what the general public wants to do. I do believe that the good ones are confident, strong women, and are certainly very good at what they do. But I do not want to be classified as one of the women I described above. Maybe it's as some of you have said- it's how she displays her sexuality. I just find it very, very hard to accept, especially when such explicit acts were not asked for. Maybe I'm naive, please let me know if I am. I'm still trying to figure everything out. I am so glad I found this… again, I know I’m very late but I just felt like I had to comment. I just started taking pole classes two months ago and I love them! I really am not sure why I started. I think I was partly curious and also saw a friend on facebook who’s in Med School with her display pic as her on a pole. I think I said “Hey.. I’ve heard of this. I bet I can do it, too!” but I really don’t know. Anyway, lately I’ve been having the argument with a vecry good male friend of mine about the pole dancer versus stripper. I showed him the video on youtube of the highlights from the USPD championships and his first response was “Come on… they’re all strippers”. It made me so mad!! Why did they all have to be strippers?? Just because someone dances doesn’t mean they strip and vice versa. Judging by this blog it looks like I was right on that point, at least.

Since then, I’ve become a little bit more comfortable with the idea of those professional dancers also being strippers. Why not? I think the big problem is not just society’s perception, but the female perception of stripping. For me, anyway (I’m in my early 20s, so no, I’m not 100% confident in myself), I think of strippers and strip clubs and I think to myself “what do they have that I don’t?” and I start to get pretty insecure. Sure, I’m pretty, but my boobs aren’t big and I sometimes struggle with my weight. That’s just the way it is. And I think that some women (myself included, at times) get insecure that their men go to strip clubs for entertainment. I honestly do think that’s why some of them go- pure entertainment. I have absolutely no problem with that. I wouldn’t even really be bothered with my boyfriend getting a lapdance. My problem is with those performers who take it to the next level.

A female friend of mine was taken out to a very popular strip club in downtown Toronto this weekend and was bought 10 minutes worth of lap dances by her male coworkers. They got her the “bustiest” girl there, who then proceeded to push her boobs in her face, and throughout the dance tried to shove her “hooha” (my friend’s words, not mine) in her face and also gave herself the shocker!! And let me make it clear that this friend did NOT appreciate this! It’s stories like this that make me wary of strip clubs. I KNOW not all strippers are like this, and I am NOT putting them in all the same category. But this was happening in the CLASSY part of this strip club. For me, anyway, I can just picture a guy in the same situation and I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t be sitting there getting traumatized like she was. I will be the first to admit I have never been to s strip club and I do not know what the norm is, but her story really bothered me.

I am much more comfortable being lumped in with strippers, if that’s what the general public wants to do. I do believe that the good ones are confident, strong women, and are certainly very good at what they do. But I do not want to be classified as one of the women I described above. Maybe it’s as some of you have said- it’s how she displays her sexuality. I just find it very, very hard to accept, especially when such explicit acts were not asked for. Maybe I’m naive, please let me know if I am. I’m still trying to figure everything out.

]]> By: Catherine Plantagenet http://poleskivvies.com/2009/05/strippers-and-pole-dancing/comment-page-1/#comment-919 Catherine Plantagenet Fri, 16 Jul 2010 15:15:10 +0000 http://poleskivvies.com/?p=1357#comment-919 What first stirred in me the desire to pole dance was going to a strip club every so often with a female friend and watching the girls dance. I couldn't take my eyes off them, I was so entranced by their strength and beauty. I would ignore everyone else in the club, including my friend, and just stare, the whole night. I see strippers now the way I did back then: as spinning goddesses. What first stirred in me the desire to pole dance was going to a strip club every so often with a female friend and watching the girls dance. I couldn’t take my eyes off them, I was so entranced by their strength and beauty. I would ignore everyone else in the club, including my friend, and just stare, the whole night. I see strippers now the way I did back then: as spinning goddesses.

]]> By: betty http://poleskivvies.com/2009/05/strippers-and-pole-dancing/comment-page-1/#comment-913 betty Wed, 14 Jul 2010 05:01:12 +0000 http://poleskivvies.com/?p=1357#comment-913 i really think there is a fine line between dancing...stripping.. prostitution...acting in movies.. and i really do not understand how people can overgeneralize. yes, a lot of times the stereotype is true. but, does that affect anyone that does NOT go into a strip club? mind your own business. i am a dancer. i know that i sure dont look at all the men that go in there as dollar signs... and not all of us girls are just talentless whores with no self- respect. unfortunately, there are girls who ruin that reputation for the rest of us. but it goes like that in any crowd. i just dont even see the point of looking down on dancers. hell, i dont even look down on prostitutes. doesnt affect me. if they can sleep at night, no one loses out. men get what they want, babies get fed. period. i really think there is a fine line between dancing…stripping.. prostitution…acting in movies.. and i really do not understand how people can overgeneralize. yes, a lot of times the stereotype is true. but, does that affect anyone that does NOT go into a strip club? mind your own business. i am a dancer. i know that i sure dont look at all the men that go in there as dollar signs… and not all of us girls are just talentless whores with no self- respect. unfortunately, there are girls who ruin that reputation for the rest of us. but it goes like that in any crowd. i just dont even see the point of looking down on dancers. hell, i dont even look down on prostitutes. doesnt affect me. if they can sleep at night, no one loses out. men get what they want, babies get fed. period.

]]> By: Caity http://poleskivvies.com/2009/05/strippers-and-pole-dancing/comment-page-1/#comment-843 Caity Mon, 21 Jun 2010 22:43:17 +0000 http://poleskivvies.com/?p=1357#comment-843 Wow, another one coming into the conversation very late! I am Australian student, and have just come back to university this year after 2 years of full time work. I've been pole dancing for about 3 months now, and have never enjoyed anything so much. Every time I learn a new spin or trick it makes me feel so in control of my body, which in itself is a very sexy feeling. I also love to show off my moves to friends, and am always taping my new routines. I've recently made the decision to pursue this love of pole and start dancing at strip clubs. Financially, while the good money will be amazing, I'm really just as well off as a lot of my friends who are working full time, so I don't need the money. I'm choosing to do this because it's something I enjoy and because I can develop my pole dancing skills further. I don't know how I'll feel once I'm up on stage taking my clothes off, but if I like it, then it's the best way for a student to make money that I know of, and, when it's a choice, is one of the most empowering things a woman can do - to feel 100% confident in her own skin. Wow, another one coming into the conversation very late!
I am Australian student, and have just come back to university this year after 2 years of full time work. I’ve been pole dancing for about 3 months now, and have never enjoyed anything so much. Every time I learn a new spin or trick it makes me feel so in control of my body, which in itself is a very sexy feeling. I also love to show off my moves to friends, and am always taping my new routines.
I’ve recently made the decision to pursue this love of pole and start dancing at strip clubs. Financially, while the good money will be amazing, I’m really just as well off as a lot of my friends who are working full time, so I don’t need the money. I’m choosing to do this because it’s something I enjoy and because I can develop my pole dancing skills further.
I don’t know how I’ll feel once I’m up on stage taking my clothes off, but if I like it, then it’s the best way for a student to make money that I know of, and, when it’s a choice, is one of the most empowering things a woman can do – to feel 100% confident in her own skin.

]]> By: poledancing lessons http://poleskivvies.com/2009/05/strippers-and-pole-dancing/comment-page-1/#comment-707 poledancing lessons Wed, 12 May 2010 14:07:23 +0000 http://poleskivvies.com/?p=1357#comment-707 I think that is is vitally important that we distinguish the two. I think that is is vitally important that we distinguish the two.

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