Comments on: Sensuality, Sexuality, and Stuck Up Pole Dancers

By: Claire Griffin Sterrett

Claire Griffin Sterrett — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 08:19:19 +0000

Fuck! I love that I can cuss on this website! Yah, it makes me bananas when I see women pole dancing on YouTube with absolutely no hip action and no emotion and, basically, no soul.
I read a quote by a ballet critic once that said something like this: what makes a performer worth watching is a combination of technical skill and raw, high-octane emotion. This emotion is directly linked to the animalistic sex drive and it’s what fuels a powerful performance. So it’s not just pole dancing that requires a certain kind of sexuality, it’s ALL dancing, really.
As women, when we pole dance, we are telling a story with our bodies and more often than not, that story is a sexual (sensual? whatever) one. It’s important that we keep telling this story so that other women, whether they pole dance or not, can begin to see that this is ok.
When I see a dancer throw a bunch of tricks, gymnast style, on a pole, with no sensuality, no emotion, no dance I wonder how it is possible that this woman became so far divorced from her sexual animalistic side in such an erotic practice. And it worries me for some of the same reasons that Jennifer brings up on her post about the stripper vs pole dancer rift.

By: Josh Hanagarne

Josh Hanagarne — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 01:54:23 +0000

Hi everyone. This is a first for me, commenting (or reading!) a pole dancing blog, but as someone who has dated a belly dancer, I have to say that the distinction between sensuous and sexual does not apply for me–as far as belly dancing.

I nominate Angi’s suggestion of “sexuous” for pole and belly dancing.

By: Martina

Martina — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 23:25:04 +0000

I recently commented on one pole video “Truly an amazing GYMNAST, but not pole dancer. Was it just me or there was no single HIP CIRCLE in the 6 min. routine?” lol Yep, she won, she was strong as Hercules, flexible as a rubber and …..FUCK, it drives me nuts when hips are not moving.

By: Angi Cardwell

Angi Cardwell — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 01:52:58 +0000

Another interesting blog.

I agree with many of your points here regarding snobbery, but
I do believe there is a vast difference between the word sensuality and sexuality. Also, I think that this blog is actually fostering snobbery and division. ( just with a different opinion.) We should respect people who choose to discern between the words sexuality and sensuality and not lump them into a snob category! We should all endeavor to play nice if we want to be united.

In my mind the word sensuality and sexuality would be like the difference between making love and having sex. Does this qualify me as a snob? I don’t know why but the word sexuality has a more abrasive sound to it. It seems devoid of the whole of a woman’s sexuality. Not descriptive or expressive enough. It doesn’t illuminate a woman’s captivating sexual soul. It seems more superficial and one dimensional to me personally.
When I dance it feels, most often, like making love. Possibly because of the music I dance to. I truly enjoy this experience. Although I do enjoy just “having sex” sometimes!
I feel “sensuality” and “sensuous” are more appropriate descriptions of what I do, so I use these words on my site:)
I like the word sensuous even better! I believe there is more of a yielding tenderness and vulnerability in the word “sensuousness”. There is more giving of ones self. There is some LOVE in it. I often feel like I have a heightened sense of awareness when I am dancing and this is a good word for that. Sometimes I am feeling immense pleasure but it is not necessarily sexual pleasure per se. (and sometimes it is.)

Maybe we should come up with a new word! ha.

Here are the dictionary definitions.

definitions: SENSUOUS
1. Appealing to or gratifying the senses.
2. Readily affected through the senses.
2. Highly appreciative of the pleasures of sensation. (OH yeah!)

Definition of SEXUAL:
sexual character; possession of the structural and functional traits of sex.
Booooring.

Maybe we should say: Sexuous.
or Sensuex. (that sounds like a name brand for a condom, though.)

much love to you all!

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By: Karol REDKE71

Karol REDKE71 — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 03:50:42 +0000

omg, i so agree with everyone here..

By: Maddie

Maddie — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 01:54:02 +0000

Ah!… well if anyone was going to say it like it is it was going to be you! Yes it’s sexual.. hell.. every time I even try to talk to my husband about it he gets his own “pole” and the conversation ends up derailed… on the up side he is all for getting me a pole..spare no expense, now I just have to figure out where I can put it!

Maddie

By: Diana

Diana — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 17:12:28 +0000

I hate how people automatically brush it off because it is a sexual dance. I don’t have to take the sexuality away to be taken seriously. It’s part of the dance! Pole dancing is sexual and just like any other dance, it takes hard work and dedication to get it right. And to be able to look sexy while doing it takes talent! Taking the sexuality from pole dance is like taking a lion out of the wild and into a cage. It’s just not as fierce!

By: Birthe Regine

Birthe Regine — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 14:15:23 +0000

Well, this is, as you know, some of the things that’s been puzzling me too. Leaving out the erotic and sexual part in pole dancing. Or simply denying it.

In my opinion it doesn’t matter how good you are technically on the pole if you don’t got that extra thing going. And that extra thing IS your sexuality.

By: Yannori

Yannori — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 05:42:48 +0000

Remember the line from Dirty Dancing: “Come on Ladies! God wouldn’t have given you *maracas* if he didn’t want you to SSSHHHAAAKKKEEE ‘em”

Wild Bondage and Whipping Orgies? Isn’t that the after party plans for “So You Think You Can Dance”?

PS. In case I haven’t told you today…You Rock Jennifer!