Stage Fright and What to Do About It

Get butterflies when you pole in public?

Then, welcome to the crowd!

Stage nerves are a universal issue, one all dancers have to deal with. That’s why, today, I’m responding to an email I got on this issue, from my fab pole buddy, Azriel, who asks:

How can I make myself less nervous before my performance?
How can I make it look like I’m less nervous, so that I’m not so stiff during my performance?

How to Get Over Stage Fright

If you’re reading this from an RSS or email feed, click to see the video on dealing with stage fright.

Hope this tutorial helps you feel more assured the next time you take the stage! If you want to explore this issue in more detail, get the So Long, Stage Fright Workbook.

Have a topic you’d like to see in one of these tutorials?

Fabulous! All you have to do is email me and I’ll get your topic in the line-up. I post new video tutorials every other Wednesday.

See you next time!

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3rd March, 2010 - Posted by PoleSkivvies - 3 Comments
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Sissybuns’ First Pole Dance Competition

Sissybuns

A Chance Encounter

If you ever spend time on StudioVeena or Facebook, you’ve probably met the totally vivacious Sissybuns.

Well, I had lost touch with her a bit, since I don’t have as much time as I used to for those Friday night pole chats, so it was a total stroke of luck when I found her on Facebook this past week.

It was one of those, “OMG!!! SISSYBUNS!!! I MISSED YOU!!” moments, with her being all, “SKIVSTER!!!”

You know, typical online joy at reconnection. :)

A Little Experiment

But then we got to chatting, which, as you can imagine, was all about pole, and, as it turned out, Sissybuns was getting ready to perform at her very first competition and was busy working on a routine. We talked about doing a coaching session as prep for her performance, and decided to make it into a little experiment.

I thought, wouldn’t it be fun to make it into a blog post – you’d all get to hear how the whole coaching thing works, I’d get the fun of hanging out with Sissybuns and seeing her wonderful dancing, and she’d get some free performance coaching.

So, that’s what we did. We met up on Skype the day before Sissybuns’ performance for the Miss Xpose 2010 Preliminary, and here’s what happened …

Coaching Goals

What was really cool about working with Sissybuns is she had very specific goals to work on. She had a routine already created and the performance was just one day away, so it was a very focused hour.

Sissybuns was doing a very sexy, very sultry dance and wanted to make sure to convey that feeling throughout her entire choreography. The routine included a couple of floorwork sequences and our goal was to smooth out transitioning back to standing. Moreover, Sissybuns had recently had foot surgery, so she needed to make sure her choreography worked around her sore foot and didn’t force her to worry too much about it.

See Sissybuns rehearsing with a her cast on! She is one VERY dedicated pole dancer!
Sissybuns

Sissybuns on her goals for the session:

I was concerned with my stage presence as a whole. I had never performed in front of anyone before and had entered into a local pole dance competition (Miss Xpose 2010) where I couldn’t rely on high flying tricks and stunts to “wow” the crowd because the category I competed in didn’t allow any inverts.

Plus, I was still in recovery from a recent surgery I had had on my left foot less then eight weeks ago. My concern with hiding my obvious injury was making me apprehensive in a lot of my dancing.

We got to work

Once Sissybuns had shown me her routine, we dove right in, starting with her entrance. Originally, she had planned to walk to the pole, but, with her injured foot, walking that distance was affecting her ability to be fully focused when she stepped onto the stage.

Instead, we tried versions of starting already at the pole and starting by crawling to the pole. Sissybuns actually did some really hot crawling, but opted against it in the end, since the floor she’d be performing on was hardwood and would only scrape her knees up before she even got to the floorwork sequences.

So, to get the ideas churning, I demo’d a few standing-in-place, sexy moves to see if any of them suited her. Sissybuns tried them out and found ones that she not only liked, but that also allowed her to shift her weight off her foot, if needed.

Floorwork

Next, we moved on to floorwork. Sissybun’s first floorwork sequence was flawless – beautifully choreographed, smoothly transitioned, and gliding easily back up to standing. The second one, though, got a little stuck before coming up from the floor.

To tackle this, we got down on the floor together and she showed me what position she landed in. I tried to see what ways there were to come up out of it. In the end, what seemed to work was leaning away from her bent leg and then saucily kicking her leg up to bring it around the pole. Sissybuns tried it out and was able to incorporate it into her sequence, now making the transition up from the floor seamlessly.

Sissybuns

Steaming it Up

Sissybuns is blessed with the best eyes in the world for doing sexy dancing – she has total Cleopatra eyes. And, as would be expected from someone with eyes like that, she can do sultry like nobody’s business! So, for this aspect of her dance, we worked more on the few places where that feeling skipped a beat.

At first, she’d been too worried about her sore foot to stay fully present in the emotion she was trying to convey as she walked onto stage. When we re-worked her choreography to avoid that walking, it helped. But the other part affecting the entrance was that typical, OMG-I’m-about-to-start adrenalin rush that we all get. To counteract that, we worked on slowing down the start, delaying it until she felt really centered, and then letting the dance begin.

The effect was amazing! That sultry intensity was suddenly there, right from the beginning, which heightened the drama of her entrance.

To make sure to maintain that intensity, we then worked on bringing more sex appeal to the moves and transitions elsewhere in her choreography. Sissybuns was an incredibly fast learner, trying different gestures I suggested, changing speed, emphasizing different parts of a move, and getting those final touches in place that really bring a dance together.

What Sissybuns says about the session

I AM SO HAPPY I DID THIS! The session had a huge impact not only on my competition routine, but for all my future dancing and performing.

Jennifer helped me improve by changing a step here, giving more eye contact there and even changing the whole way I began my routine so I started sure, strong and confident. She showed me how to get my inner lioness to shine and portray the feeling that I was hoping my audience would feel while I danced.

She watched me and let me know how the audience would see me as I danced. She didn’t try to change me or alter my style, but only added to it.

Jennifer gave me the keys needed to give a good performance. I will keep the things she taught me in mind for the rest of the time that I dance, and I believe I’ll be a better dancer because of it.

The performance!

There was a video snafu at the competition, but Sissybuns put together this video of the choreography to show you – you’ll love it!

What Sissybuns says about working with Jennifer (gulp)

Jennifer is not a pole dance instructor. She will make that very clear to you. But what she is, is a performer. Somebody who loves the art of pole dance and watches closely to see what works and what doesn’t. She understands the art of seduction and playfulness, which is exactly what I was trying to pull off.

She focuses on the small things. The things you won’t notice on your own, like what that free hand is doing when you do a spin, or your facial expression while you dance. Sometimes we are so caught up in our tricks and spins that we forget about the performance, about the people watching us … and that’s where Jennifer makes the difference.

Thank you, Sissybuns!

Sissybuns brought off her performance with flying colors! She did a beautiful, sexy dance and made her dream of performing pole dance come true.

Thank you, Sissybuns, for doing this coaching post with me! I had so much fun working with you, and I really appreciate your letting me blog about the experience. You rock, you fab pole dancer, you!! I can’t wait to see what you put together for your next competition!

If you’d like some coaching to bring out the best in your next performance, email me to set up a session. For more information, check out the page on private coaching.

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1st March, 2010 - Posted by PoleSkivvies - 8 Comments
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How to Get Graceful Arm Movements

Not sure what to do with your arms when dancing?

If so, you are not alone – I’ve gotten a lot of requests this month for information on arm and hand movements!

Remember, even though we pole dancers use our arms more for grasping the pole than for dancing per se, it is still essential that we have graceful arm and hand movements.

Learn how to dance with your arms and hands

If you’re reading this from an RSS or email feed, click to see the video on getting graceful arm movements.

You’ll also want to see this tutorial I did last year. It gives additional detail on using your arms and hands – plus teaches you the classic belly dance move, Snake Arms!

Have a topic you’d like to see in one of these tutorials?

Fabulous! All you have to do is email me and I’ll get your topic in the line-up. I post new video tutorials every other Wednesday.

And, if you are looking for something more tailored, check out my private coaching sessions or get yourself one of my workbooks (there’s one to help you get over your performance jitters, and one to help you liven up your performances).

See you next time!

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17th February, 2010 - Posted by PoleSkivvies - 1 Comment
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What the Heck Should I Be Doing With My Face??

Does this sound familiar?

You’ve got some snazzy moves going, you’re getting a little confidence in your dancing, but you have no idea what you should be doing with your face. Sometimes, you’re thinking so hard you look like you’re scowling. Other times, your smile freezes on your face like an icicle.

What can you do to get prettier facial expressions?

So glad you asked! Here are some ideas:

Have a question you’d like answered on Ask Jennifer?

Fabulous! I post video tutorials every other Wednesday. If you want your question featured,
email me and I’ll get it in the line-up!

And, if you are looking for something more one-on-one, check out my private coaching sessions.

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3rd February, 2010 - Posted by PoleSkivvies - No Comments
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Winners of the Private Coaching Giveaway

Thank You!

A huge and resounding thank you to everyone who entered the coaching giveaway!

All January, as part of the launch of my new video tutorial feature, Ask Jennifer, I collected questions on stage presence.

The deal was, three people would win an hour-long private coaching session with me, and everyone’s questions would get answered in upcoming video tutorials and posts. So, without further ado …

The Lucky Winners Are …

  • Karen, who asked about dancing for an audience
  • Anna, who asked about facial expression, and
  • Felecia, who asked about floor work and expression

Stay tuned for upcoming video tutorials (every other Wednesday) – I’ll be covering all of the above and more!

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31st January, 2010 - Posted by PoleSkivvies - 1 Comment
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What if You Can’t Dance? Like, at all.

If the dance in pole dance is where you get lost …

Let me tell you, for a lot of people, the dance in pole dance is the scary part. Not the upside-down, hanging-by-your-little-toe moves, but the dancing.

You know, the part where you have to stand there and actually, like, dance.

So, today’s tutorial is about …

How to loosen up and discover that you just might be able to dance, after all!

(If you’re reading this from a feed, click here to view the video.)

Have a question you’d like answered on Ask Jennifer?

Fabulous! I post video tutorials every other Wednesday. If you want your question featured,
email me and I’ll get it in the line-up.

You may also want to enter the giveaway! Three winners will be drawn from the emails I receive by January 31, 2010. They will each get a free one-hour coaching session on stage presence. No purchase is necessary. (Remember, questions should be on stage presence and performance skills – not pole moves.)

And, if you are looking for something more one-on-one, you can always set up a private coaching session with me.

So, lots of options, lots of fun – can’t wait to hear from you!

And be sure to check out the last Ask Jennifer on How to Dance the Hell Out of Each Move. (Followed quickly by How Youtube is Sending Me into Therapy. Sigh.)

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20th January, 2010 - Posted by PoleSkivvies - 4 Comments
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How to Dance the Hell Out of Each Move

Ask Jennifer

Today starts the new video tutorial feature, Ask Jennifer! This is your chance to email me your questions on stage presence and performance – and, if selected, get a tutorial focused just on your question, for free!

However, since I know it won’t be possible to do a tutorial for everyone who emails, I’m kicking things off with …

Freebies, Freebies!

Ahem. With a special giveaway.

Which means, I’m giving away three one-hour coaching sessions – that’s three private classes, up for the taking. All you have to do is email in your questions by January 31, 2010. The three winners will be drawn from those emails; no purchase is necessary.

Remember, questions should be on stage presence and performance skills – not pole moves. And, even if your email isn’t selected for a tutorial and doesn’t win the drawing, you still have options. The easiest is to keep checking back here for future posts and tutorials on your topic. But, if you want something more personalized, we can set up a private coaching session just for you. (Not free, but very reasonable!)

And, now, without further ado …

Let’s begin today’s tutorial, on the timeless question, known commonly as, “Okay, so now what do I do?” Also referred to as, “I only know three moves – I’m screwed!” And, the ever popular, “Fuckin’ A, I don’t get this!”

Which is why I am calling this tutorial, “How to Dance the Hell Out of Each Move.” In it, I’ll use a basic move (the hip circle) to show how even a single, simple move, can be varied in a thousand different ways – even to the point that it, yes, actually becomes dance.

So, hold on to your seats, chickadees – here we go!

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6th January, 2010 - Posted by PoleSkivvies - 3 Comments
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