Today, though, we bring it all together. Today, you learn what really makes a dance sexy – and it’s not what you think.
It’s not a perfect body. It’s not a gorgeous face. It’s not perfect clothing or a gymnast’s flexibility.
Nope. None of that is what you need to make your dancing hot.
The Secret Ingredient
The one thing and one thing only that makes dancing sexy is you. Not just you being there, but you being fully present in your body, and delighting in the thrill of your own sexiness.
When you can put yourself into your dance – your heart, your soul, your passion – you will instantly make your dancing one hundred percent sexier.
Why does this work?
Most of what we are taught to think of as sexy, is really just an imitation of a woman being sexually aroused. So, if you are dancing in a way that actually connects you to your real feelings of sexual desire, you are automatically hotter than anything else out there – just by merit of the fact that you are being authentic.
Real desire, real arousal are sexier than any photoshopped thing out there.
So remember, ladies, you are the secret ingredient – and don’t ever let yourself forget it.
Own your sexiness
Sexual allure begins with enjoying your own beauty. So, before you dance, always take a moment to remind yourself of all the things that are sexy about you.
Maybe your smile would rival Marilyn Monroe’s. Maybe you have incredible ankles. Maybe you have voluptuous hips or a twinkle in your eye that makes men line up at your door.
Whatever you love about you, whatever your special someone loves about you, find it. Think about it. Delight in it.
Every woman is sexy and every woman has her own unique allure. The trick is to find that in yourself and let yourself believe it.
Give into your desire
Dancing is movement, it’s motion. So the next step is getting that mental awareness of your own sexiness to flow into your body.
Let yourself start to move within your feelings of sexiness.
Let your hips sway and rock, let your body move in a way that gives you pleasure. The more you enjoy the movement, the more enjoyable the movement will be to watch.
Remember when we talked about touching yourself when you dance? (Here’s that link again, if you need it.) Well, that’s really what we’re talking about here. Touching yourself is hot because it looks like you’re getting in the mood. So just imagine how much hotter it will be if you actually are getting in the mood.
So feel the pleasure of your body. Feel the deliciousness of your flesh. That’s the source of all sexuality – and that’s where you will find the heat for your sexiest, most tantalizing dance yet.
Valentine’s Day 911
With Valentine’s Day fast approaching, I know a lot of you are going to be planning a sexy dance for your own special someone.
For some of you, it’s going to be the first time you’ve ever planned something like this, and you are going to find you have some questions.
Like, you can only think of two sexy moves – how do you make them last throughout an entire song?
Or, you’re super shy – how do you make that work for you?
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Just two more weeks until Valentine’s Day, so I’m sticking with my series on making the world safe for sexy dancing.
This week, it’s all about the hair.
Hair has always been considered super sexy – just look at the Goddess of Love’s gorgeous hair in these masterpieces – Botticelli’s Birth of Venus, and (my personal favorite; be sure to click to enlarge) Bouguereau’s The Birth of Venus.
Hair is the seductive accessory we always have with us – and who among us hasn’t used a well-timed hair flip to get some hottie’s attention?
Still, just because we know hair is sexy doesn’t mean we know how to make use of it when we’re dancing.
Use This Power Only for Good
A hair flip, like any sexy use of hair, casts a very potent spell. When used correctly, few things are as sensually inviting. On the other hand, there are few things as annoying as watching someone overuse the hair flip in an effort to capture her beau’s attention.
So, what exactly are the do’s and don’ts? After all, you want your hair to be enticing, not … I can’t resist the pun … flippant. (Forgive me!)
The Do’s of Hair Flipping
DO emphasize the sensuality of your hair. Play with your curls. Let your straight locks brush against your skin. The key here is to enjoy touching your hair – because that’s a lot like touching yourself, which works so well in sexy dancing.
DO lift your hair up and let it fall gently down again. Make it even sexier by gently moving your head back and forth as your hair tumbles down. This gives the impression of sensual reveling in the silky delights of your hair.
DO let your hair fall like a veil over your face and sexily flip it back. This maneuver is all about the tease. Do it while bending over, do it while sitting with your legs saucily crossed, do it whenever you want to add an extra dash of mystery to your dancing.
The Don’ts of Hair Flipping
DON’T confuse constant hair flipping with dancing. A little hair flipping goes a long way; don’t overdo it. Think of it as an accent step, rather than as a primary dance move.
DON’T shake your hair with the beat. You are not at a jam session (well, probably you aren’t). The idea is to show off the sensuality of your hair, not to demonstrate your ability to rock out with a righteous head bob.
DON’T spray your hair until it looks like a helmet. Nothing kills sensuality faster than plasticene hair. If your hair looks like it could survive a night in a wind tunnel, there’s no way to dance with it. Instead, go for a softer look emphasizing movement and texture.
Have short hair? Or just want more ideas?
You’re in luck! You’ll find lots of tips for sexy dancing with short hair (even things that will work with a crew cut) in Get Your Sexy On, a free guide to sexy dancing. Plus more ideas for long hair and all sorts of other tips to make your dancing smoking hot!
And, if you want a little more assistance than you can get in a PDF, set up a How to Strip class with me and we’ll get you all set up for Valentine’s Day!
Today, though, I thought we’d delve into the heart of all sexy dancing: the tease.
Mystery is Everything
Despite current trends towards mini skirts and micro-thongs, sexy isn’t really about putting it all out there. The fact remains that mystery is a lot more sexy – all those delights you want, but that are held just out of reach.
So, even if you’re doing a very private dance for a very special someone who is going to get a very, very happy treat at the end, you still need to maintain the suspense. You still need to sustain a level of reasonable doubt – that’s what keeps it interesting.
Which bring us to the how-to section of this post. What can you do to create that sizzle? What do you actually do to create that tease?
Teasing Glimpses
This is where you show a little skin, then hide a little skin.
Cleavage Flash. Try wearing an oversized sweater and pulling it low enough to give a hint of your cleavage. Also works great with a button-down shirt – just unbutton a little extra. Or a t-shirt – pull it up sexily and give him a little peek.
Glance O’Thigh. Hike your skirt up enough to show some thigh – then let it fall back into place. If your skirt has a slit, let it fall open over your leg and then saucily pull it up with your finger tip – but only for a second.
Bottoms Up. Turn your backside towards him and wiggle your skirt up high enough to show just a taste of your bottom. When he’s begging for more, put your goodies under wraps again.
Teasing Touch
This is where you get physical – but not as much as he’s hoping! These ideas work especially well in a lap dance, but can be adapted to other dancing, as well.
Hand Tease. Run your hands up his thighs – but stop an inch short of his crotch. Smirk as you pull your hands away.
Approach and Withdraw. Lean over him while doing the Cleavage Flash. Just as he’s thinking you’re about to make contact, pull away and cover up.
Kiss Off. Lean in as if you’re about to kiss his neck, but don’t make contact. Instead, let him feel the warmth of your breath for a second before you pull away.
Teasing Strip
This is where you take it all off, just slowly enough to keep him wondering if he’s going to see anything at all.
The Cover-Up. Just because you’ve taken something off doesn’t mean you have to toss it to the side right away. Dance with it pressed up against your curves and let him enjoy the shape of you first.
Tantalizer. When you remove a glove or a scarf or other accessory, take a moment to run it slowly over your body or lips before you fling it.
Full Monty. If you’ve ever seen the final dance in The Full Monty, then you know this move. It’s where you take off a final layer – like your bra or g-string – while simultaneously covering up with something else. In the movie, they took off their thongs at the exact moment they covered up with their hats. Perfect!
For more tips on sexy dancing, check out Get Your Sexy On, a free guide to sexy dancing.
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But with Valentine’s Day coming up, I figured this would be a fun topic to explore. So, for the next few posts leading up to Valentine’s Day, I thought it would be cool to focus on how to make our dancing even sexier.
You know, just in case you want to give your guy a striptease. Or you want to make all the gawkers at the club come in their pants.
Whatever.
So, today, let’s focus on the number one thing required of any sexy dancing …
Masturbation
Yes. Masturbation. Get over it.
Okay, so I call it “touching yourself” in the free guide (go click on it already, for god’s sake), but it’s all just variations on a theme. And, since – as my glorious friend, Sarah, would have me ‘fess up – I’ve been doing it doggie all morning and have a splitting headache from the angle, I’m not in the mood to sugar coat it.
So, as I said, masturbation.
Now I can’t really speak for all sexual orientations, but I will state categorically that nothing gets a straight guy hard faster than watching the female of the species getting herself off.
The way we moan, the way we move our hips, our sexy facial expressions – the whole package is just one heterosexual lollapalooza wrapped up in ribbon. They love it.
Which is why, if you’re dancing for a straight guy, you should touch yourself.
Yes, you should.
I mean it. Really. You should.
How far is too far?
That is the question. Am I saying you should actually kick your legs up in the air and have one earth-shaking orgasm, or am I saying you should just gently glide your hands along your thighs and be done with it?
So, for the record, I’m saying both.
If you’re out in public, there’s only so much you can do without getting arrested. In private, though, it’s a whole other matter.
Which leaves the choice up to you.
BUT … you were waiting for that, weren’t you? … even if you choose not to masturbate, you still need to seem to be masturbating.
Wait – did I just hear Jennifer tell me to fake it?
Aw, fuckin’ A – kind of.
Now, please realize I’m not saying you should fake sexual pleasure to benefit someone else’s ego. Nor am I saying you should deny yourself true sexual pleasure and just suck it up and fake it throughout your entire life.
All I’m saying is that WHEN YOU WANT YOUR DANCING TO SEEM REALLY, REALLY SEXY you are going to have to touch yourself. Whether you really get off on it or not – or, perhaps, whether you really get FULLY off on it or not, you are going to have to do it.
Which is to say you are going to have to touch your body and look like it feels good. Obviously, this is going to be easier if, when you touch yourself, it ACTUALLY FEELS GOOD.
Read into that what you will, but even short of full-on, go-for-the-gusto, masturbation, touching yourself should feel good. And feeling your body move while you dance should also feel good, so this should not be hard to pull off.
Giving it a go
Think of the hottest guy you’ve ever seen or imagined. Think of him touching you, then touch yourself exactly like that, and keep thinking about him while you’re doing it. Places to touch: your neck, your inner thigh, your lips, your ankles. This is a sexy flourish you can add to any dance move.
Like, say, when you …
Lean your shoulders against a wall. Then, run your hands slowly all over your body. Repeat, SLOWLY. Let your hips start to circle. (Hint: this would be a really good moment to touch your thighs.)
Or try this …
Sit your lucky fella in a chair and straddle him. Do slow, grinding hip circles while letting your hands run over your breasts and mouth and back down to your hips.
And don’t forget to …
Look like you’re enjoying it. Really, if you’re not enjoying it, why are you dancing for the guy in the first place? I realize you might be nervous or self-conscious, but try to let yourself get into it.
Remember: it’s your passion and desire that make you – and your dancing – so sexy.
Same bat time, same bat channel
In the next few weeks, we’ll go into more ways to sexify your dancing. But, in the meantime, give yourself a head start by checking out the free guide to sexy dancing.
And – SHAMELESS BEGGING ALERT – if you like the guide, it would help me out a ton if you could forward it and tweet it and whatnot. Join me in my fight to make the world safe for sexy dancing.
After all, wouldn’t that be a world you’d like to live in?
P.S. Don’t forget the giveaway!
Just a quick reminder that I’m giving away three one-hour coaching sessions on stage presence for pole dancers. All you have to do is email in your questions by January 31, 2010. The three winners will be drawn from those emails; no purchase is necessary.
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Every pole dancer’s learning curve is different, and we all have different experiences in learning to pole. I thought it would be fun to share the path I’ve taken in my own pole dance journey.
First Time – December 2007
After two weeks of anxiously waiting for my pole to arrive, and more hassle than I would have liked getting it installed, I found my first moment alone with my new pole wasn’t filled with the excitement I had anticipated. Truthfully, I was nervous – I felt awkward. A bit scared, even. I had just spent a few hundred dollars on this thing – what if I didn’t like it? What if I was no good at it? And how was I going to figure out how to use it? The all-consuming pole obsession that had hit me so suddenly now seemed like a drug-induced haze, and, for a moment, I wondered what in heaven’s name I had been thinking.
Stiff and unsure, I tried a spin. I didn’t know how to move yet in a swinging motion and I found I didn’t really know what to do – despite all the Youtube videos I’d been watching while waiting for my pole. Fortunately, the DVD that came with my pole was very encouraging and I soon felt I could figure this thing out.
Early Thrills – January 2008
With a bit of practice and a few more DVDs, I managed to get a few spins. I was having fun and seemed to be learning rapidly, at least – since I only had me to go by – by my own expectations. I still wasn’t sure how to dance it, but I was so busy trying to get my new spins on both right and left sides, that I wasn’t focusing on much more than that. So far, so good.
First Setback – January 2008
After about a month on the pole, though, I was getting a bit of pain. I had landed hard on a toe and thought I might have broken something, but that wasn’t really the problem. The real problem was in my shoulder and arm – I couldn’t figure out what I was doing wrong, or if it was just that I was pushing too hard.
The thing about teaching yourself pole is, if you don’t know a lot about anatomy and proper physical alignment for aerial sports, you can get injured pretty quickly. Luckily, I have a chiropractor who plays a lot of rugby (I specifically chose her because I wanted someone who knew sports), and she was the one who helped me understand what was wrong. Turned out I had tendonitis and I had to stay off the pole for a few weeks.
Plateau – Spring 2008
When I had recovered from the tendonitis and gotten back on the pole, I figured the problem was in my posture. I had learned enough by this time to know that shoulder position was everything in pole, and I also knew that I wasn’t quite getting what everyone on the forums was describing. So, I played with my shoulder position and my back posture and hoped I’d soon get back on track.
Everything Falls Apart – Summer 2008
Instead, it all got worse. My endurance disintegrated – I could do, literally, only about five minutes of spins before my heart was pounding and I simply couldn’t do any more. I had never been out of shape, so this was really surprising to me, but I figured I didn’t have enough arm strength yet, and I just tried to do what I could. But even that seemed impossible – spins I had been able to do with ease seemed to be falling apart on me. Even my Fireman seemed off. Worse, I was getting worried about re-injuring myself, which seemed even likelier now that everything was falling apart, and I found I was getting nervous to do even basic spins.
Proper Instruction – Fall 2008
I decided the time had come to get real pole instruction. Since there are no pole instructors where I live, this meant either video courses or private online pole dancing classes. Since private pole lessons – online or otherwise – don’t come cheap, I thought I’d try the video instruction first. I went with Vertical Dance, and liked it. It was easy to follow – you could pick the moves based on your skill level, and it had warm ups and cool downs. But what it didn’t have, and what, at this point, I really needed, was somebody to look at what I was doing and say, “Whoa there, girl, do this instead.”
That’s when I started with Alena. The first class with her, I told her all the problems I’d been having and how I’d been getting worse, not better, and she watched how I was doing my spins. She took me back to basics and finally got me to understand the proper shoulder position – but, even more than that, she saw that my grip was off and was causing me to fight against myself with every move. That, it turned out, was what was causing the aches all up and down my arms and the near-immediate exhaustion. She coached me on proper grip and, that very day, I could go 20 minutes on the pole before I got tired.
Progress – Winter 2009
Things were looking up. I was getting new spins and building strength in both arms. Best of all, I wasn’t getting injured. Well, yes, there was some pole burn and bruises, but those I wore with pride – I showed them off at work. But my tendonitis hadn’t returned and I felt like a powerhouse.
Dancing – Winter 2009
I still wasn’t ready to deal with inverting – that scared the hell out of me. But I did want to learn to dance with the pole, not just spin around it. This turned out to be much more difficult than I expected. After all, I had a ton of dance experience – surely I could meld the two styles with ease.
Actually, though, belly dance posture and pole posture are very different – I had a struggle pulling those two together. And dancing in a circle around a pole – as opposed to a full stage – felt bizarre to me. I just didn’t know what to do.
In the end, I did what I always do when the dancing won’t come – I changed music. I found burlesque-y sounds worked best for me, and I started to get the ability to just relax and let myself dance with the pole. Nothing stunning, but a good beginning.
Second Plateau – Spring 2009
Then things started leveling off again. I was doing well with my current spins and even getting a couple of basic inverts under my belt, but my arms were starting to ache again. My endurance was disintegrating, too. Since I was working full-time and also starting PoleSkivvies, I figured I was just tired. Which I was – exhausted, in fact. So I re-worked my life to make sure I got everything done, and still got a decent night’s sleep.
Re-Learning – Summer 2009
This helped, but my arms were still aching. I just figured I wasn’t as strong as some and would have to go slower. I eased up on my workout, but it made little difference. All it seemed to do was allow my arms to recover between sessions, but it didn’t really prevent the aching in the first place.
Slow on the uptake as I can be, it finally occurred to me that I might be screwing up my grip again. In my next class with Alena, I mentioned that and we really broke down exactly what I was doing. On the plus side, I wasn’t doing what I had been originally – but I wasn’t doing it correctly either. Another few hints, and I could spin without aching again. I made a mental note to mention problems with my arms to Alena earlier, instead of trying to figure it out on my own, or just assuming it was a lack of physical ability.
Where I Am Now
The class with Alena where we fine-tuned my grip was just last week, so I’m still working on that, trying to make the new approach feel second-nature. It’s already made a difference, though, and I’ve been dancing more this week. I feel physically stronger when poling, as well as happier – nothing like feeling I’m getting somewhere to make me smile.
My goals right now are to figure out the no-handed Scorpio and smooth out my dismounts from inverts. I also want to get stronger on the plank and find ways to dance more when I’m climbing or sitting on the pole. As ever, I am still trying to bring more dance into my poling, and I think that’s made a step forward recently.
Overall, it’s good, but I have a few physical challenges. My foot, which was aching for over a month in the spring, turned out to have arthritis, a parting gift from a surgery I had a few years ago. This means a whole new shoe wardrobe, arch supports, and extra care when stepping on the ball of my foot. I had already known my high heel and platform days were over, but I hadn’t expected to have so many problems being barefoot, so this took some effort to work around, and, I admit, left me in a funk for a few weeks.
That’s doing better now, though, so I’m mainly struggling with my Scorpio, since doing it no-handed seems to leave me with back tightness and spasms. The main goal now is to figure out what I’m doing wrong there, or what needs to be strengthened to support me in that move. I received a bit of coaching from Leela of Pole Bliss Studio, who told me my conditioning routine was out of balance and gave me some core strengthening exercises to try. That is number one on my list to work on. I also want to work with Alena to come up with a better conditioning routine.
All in all, a good year and a half’s progress. I figure, one more year and I’ll be able to dance smoothly and fluidly, the way I wish to – and that’s when the fun will really start!
It’s a little-known fact that I choreograph when I drive. Not like I’m Bob Fosse or anything, but it’s something I do. For a long time, I imagined mostly belly dance choreographies, but it can also be your basic sexy rock video-type dancing. When I’m in the zone, floating down the highway, my head is full of dance.
Pole dance visions
Getting my head to play with pole in these fantasies took awhile. It was like my inner self hadn’t quite caught up with what was going on yet. And more than that, I simply didn’t know any pole moves well enough to imagine fitting them together.
Then, a few months ago, that all changed. Now all I see when driving is pole (yes, I still manage to watch the road). It’s fantastic! And it keeps me in that excited-to-go-dance feeling, which is so vital.
But what’s even better is, at long last, I have gotten to the point where I can make a start at dancing the way I see it in my head.
The dream and the reality
I love the way belly dance and pole combine together, the way veil and hip movements can work so well with pole. I have visions of beautiful spins, with a veil streaming behind me.
Of course, the first time I tried to bring this vision into reality, I found that veils and poles are … tricky. I also found that I wasn’t strong enough for one-armed spins, which was a problem. Let’s face it, spinning on the pole with a newbie’s death grip does not give you a lot of options for gracefully floating with a veil.
So, I worked on my strength and my spins. I pushed myself … and learned I don’t do well with that. I stopped the pushing and tried, instead, to let myself naturally dance and see what would happen. I paced myself and built strength in my arms.
Progress, at last
Then, this weekend, it finally started coming together! Not anywhere close to my vision – yet – but at least it’s on track. For me, I find I do best when I let myself dance and not worry about which pole move I’m going to do, or even if I’m going to do any. I know that, as the advanced spins and combos and inverts become more comfortable to me, I’ll start including them in my dancing automatically.
So, for now, I do minimal spins, but have a lot of fun, and am learning how to combine the different dance styles I love, and the prop I’ve been imagining.
Here’s where I am so far with my vision. It’s heavy on dance and attitude and fun, less heavy on pole – which, I find, matches my sense of my personal style.
Your pole dance dream
I thought it would be great to see what other people’s pole dance dreams are. What are the different things we imagine for ourselves when it comes to pole – how do we want to move, what do we consider to be our personal style?
Share your vision
So, tell us a little about your pole dance dreams! Even write them in the comments below, if you’re so inclined.
Well, obviously, I don’t mean real trolls. The only real trolls live in Iceland and, from what I understand, are not much into pole dancing. I mean body image trolls. You know, the ones that live in your head and jump out at you when you least expect it.
Tummy Trolls
I live with a few different trolls – tummy trolls, hip trolls, and – more and more – hair color trolls. Generally, we all live together peacefully, but in low moments they come out to graze. This weekend, my tummy troll woke up early Saturday morning and decided that the best way for me to give a belly dance workshop was if I suddenly felt as if my mid-section were one freakishly shapeless blob.
Now, I’m not sure why tummy trolls feel this is a useful perspective, but they do. Perhaps they see their role as giving us ample opportunity to dive ever deeper into our emotional baggage, hoping we’ll whittle it down to the size of a tiny lipstick clutch.
Whatever their reasoning, my response is usually the same:
First, I wonder what could have happened.
I was so beautiful the last time I checked. Whatever could have changed?
Then, I blame the lighting.
This works well since the lighting in my condo is especially flattering on my tummy. Well, unless I’m videoing, in which case the lighting morphs me into something bizarre and bulbous – but that may just be my troll talking again.
Next, I progress to obstinance.
Nonsense, I tell myself and my troll. I am beautiful. Glorious. Shapely and deliciously feminine. Men find my tummy particularly inviting.
These are true facts and should flatten any argument the troll may have. But they don’t. Instead, I weaken.
Have I gotten out of shape? Has middle-aged spread finally descended upon me? Have I been walking through life this unattractive all along and didn’t even know it?
A Language They Understand
Eventually, I realize I am spiraling down into a quagmire of low self-esteem and mental self-flagellation. I have tried to talk sense to my troll, but words are no use against them. They live nestled inside the deep recesses of our hearts and must be spoken to with feeling and passion, in a language they can truly understand. There was only one thing I could do.
I danced.
I belly danced. I pole danced. I stretched and spinned and inverted. I breathed deeply into my tummy and felt my muscles extend as I leaned into each move.
Confidence Restored
The troll understood, at last. He withdrew to his nesting grounds and left me to enjoy my day. My tummy was beautiful again. And I knew it.
Do you have body image trolls? What are your experiences with these persistent little creatures? Have you ever danced them away?
Every pole dancer I know compares herself to others. Sometimes we come out on top (“I do that spin better than anybody in my class”) and other times we grind ourselves into the ground (“I can’t believe that girl can do that hold. I can never do that hold. I totally suck.”).
You are Unique
Either way, we’re forgetting the simple truth: we are unique and our performance is unique. So, rather than compare yourself to others, consider finding what you think are your own special qualities and highlighting them in your performing.
Maybe you have a particular dance or gymnastics background that influences your moves.
Maybe your personality comes shining through everything you do and captivates your audience.
Maybe your have a theatricality to your performance that turns a 3-minute song into a Broadway show.
Show Off Whatever It is that Sets You Apart
Whatever it is, highlight that as you work to improve your art. For me, it’s my background in belly dance. That doesn’t mean I’m the only belly dancing pole dancer out there; it just means that’s where my personal style comes from.
So, even though I’m at the beginning of what there is to know about pole, I already have a signature way of moving. Even moreso, by embracing my individual background during a performance, I don’t have to rely only on the new pole moves I’m learning. Instead, I can bring all the experience I have in my other form of movement to the stage – the way I hold my fingers, the way I interact with the audience, the way I move with the phrasing of the music.
However you found pole dancing, you got here by a unique path. Your experiences are unique to you, and all that you’ve learned from them makes you who you are. That is what should be central to your performance on the pole.
Let Yourself Shine
So next time you get up on stage or do a choreography for your class, let your full self infuse your dancing. Let yourself be the best you that you can be – because nobody else can be you the way you can!
