Strippers and Pole Dancing
Isn’t pole dancing like, um, STRIPPING?
We’ve all heard it, we all know that view is out there. Yet we all pussyfoot around the issue because, hey, we do POLE FITNESS. We do VERTICAL DANCE.
You know what I say to that? Bullshit.*
We pole. We spend as much of our free time as humanly possible on a pole. And, ladies,**
we all know that everybody’s first impression is that it’s a stripper pole. Heck, Lil Mynx calls it a stripper pole, for Christ’s sake – it’s their fucking URL.
So why all this us/them, good girl/bad girl, virgin/whore bullshit?
Let me ask you this: how many of you learned how to pole from working the clubs?
And, of the rest of you, how many of you learned to pole FROM someone who used to work at the clubs?
My take on it is, pole is not very far removed from strippers. And when you see how many schools teach the “stripper walk,” or lap dance classes, or sell 6-inch kick-ass bondage fuck-me boots, you got to ask yourself, what are we pretending not to see?
Every now and then, the issue of dancing in the clubs appears on the forums and, lo and behold, a lot of people seem to know a lot about them. So, I want to talk about the stripping. I want to talk about the clubs. I want to talk about pole and sexuality and all the unspoken stuff about stripping and pole dance.
What I see too much of in the pole dance community is the sense that we have to clearly separate ourselves from strippers. We have to make it clear that we are DIFFERENT. We are ARTISTS.
I know we are all supposed to be good girls, and I know strippers are supposed to be bad girls. But I also think we all realize that strippers are good girls, too – that there are no bad girls. Just girls like me and like you and like all the pole dancers we know.
Stop crapping on the strippers
What I want is for us to be able to be proud of our art form without crapping – or feeling forced to crap – on the strippers. The strippers brought us this gift, often from some very difficult circumstances, and I think it’s spitting in their faces to constantly pretend we are different from them. Because that really means better than they are, which is mean and untrue and I don’t like it.
So, can we please start a dialogue here about what we really think and know about strippers and strip clubs, and what we really feel about that?
Let’s stop judging and start talking
No political correctness. No worries about being in the minority on this one. Whatever your views, I want to hear them. You’ve heard mine. I’m not going to judge you if you disagree with me, and I’m not going to let others get away with judging you, either. Just tell me why you feel the way you do. Honestly, I don’t want to create a big pole dancing schism; I just want to start the conversation, and I’m hoping my own point of view will broaden in the process, too.
Where do strippers and pole dancing intersect, and what are our feelings about that?
*Since this is a new blog and we’re all still getting to know one another, I thought I’d just come right out and tell you: I swear. Sometimes, I swear a lot. Today is one of those days. You have been warned: I swear to punctuate my thoughts, I swear to liven up a sentence, and sometimes – like, say when I stub my toe on the base of my pole – I let loose with a string of filthy and descriptive expletives that would tarnish the ears of your average sailor. Just giving it to you straight; I’m a lovely girl, just happens I’m also a total potty-mouth. Consider it part of my charm.
**Yes, I know not only ladies pole dance, but I think we get sneered at for being like strippers in a way the male pole dancers don’t. Let me know if I’m wrong, fellas. I’m guessing you guys get sneered at plenty, too – just in other ways.