Countdown to Valentine’s Day – Part Two

Last week, we embarked on a quest for more sexy dancing by Valentine’s Day, kicking it off with a post in which I tell you to fake it and bemoan my post-coital headache.

Today, though, I thought we’d delve into the heart of all sexy dancing: the tease.

Mystery is Everything

Despite current trends towards mini skirts and micro-thongs, sexy isn’t really about putting it all out there. The fact remains that mystery is a lot more sexy – all those delights you want, but that are held just out of reach.

So, even if you’re doing a very private dance for a very special someone who is going to get a very, very happy treat at the end, you still need to maintain the suspense. You still need to sustain a level of reasonable doubt – that’s what keeps it interesting.

Which bring us to the how-to section of this post. What can you do to create that sizzle? What do you actually do to create that tease?

Teasing Glimpses

This is where you show a little skin, then hide a little skin.

• Cleavage Flash. Try wearing an oversized sweater and pulling it low enough to give a hint of your cleavage. Also works great with a button-down shirt – just unbutton a little extra. Or a t-shirt – pull it up sexily and give him a little peek.
• Glance O’Thigh. Hike your skirt up enough to show some thigh – then let it fall back into place. If your skirt has a slit, let it fall open over your leg and then saucily pull it up with your finger tip – but only for a second.
• Bottoms Up. Turn your backside towards him and wiggle your skirt up high enough to show just a taste of your bottom. When he’s begging for more, put your goodies under wraps again.

Teasing Touch

This is where you get physical – but not as much as he’s hoping! These ideas work especially well in a lap dance, but can be adapted to other dancing, as well.

• Hand Tease. Run your hands up his thighs – but stop an inch short of his crotch. Smirk as you pull your hands away.
• Approach and Withdraw. Lean over him while doing the Cleavage Flash. Just as he’s thinking you’re about to make contact, pull away and cover up.
• Kiss Off. Lean in as if you’re about to kiss his neck, but don’t make contact. Instead, let him feel the warmth of your breath for a second before you pull away.

Teasing Strip

This is where you take it all off, just slowly enough to keep him wondering if he’s going to see anything at all.

• The Cover-Up. Just because you’ve taken something off doesn’t mean you have to toss it to the side right away. Dance with it pressed up against your curves and let him enjoy the shape of you first.
• Tantalizer. When you remove a glove or a scarf or other accessory, take a moment to run it slowly over your body or lips before you fling it.
• Full Monty. If you’ve ever seen the final dance in The Full Monty, then you know this move. It’s where you take off a final layer – like your bra or g-string – while simultaneously covering up with something else. In the movie, they took off their thongs at the exact moment they covered up with their hats. Perfect!

For more tips on sexy dancing, check out Get Your Sexy On, a free guide to sexy dancing.

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