Pole dancing is all about the videos.

I get this. I really do. You want to learn moves, you want to learn posture, you want to learn foot placement, and it’s just easier if you can see it.

But what about the other stuff? What about the intensity? What about the connection? What about the baring of your soul to your audience?

Not everything you need to learn about pole can be SEEN.

The main thing that makes dancing look like dancing is not the moves.

I’m going to repeat that, because it’s important: The main thing that makes dancing look like dancing is not the moves.

The most important things you can do for your dancing cannot be seen.

They have to be felt.

There is a road map for learning dance moves.

Learning the moves is actually the easy part of dancing. Even the most advanced moves are a lot easier to learn than, say, figuring out how to mix your moves together and make it into an exciting performance.

Moves are all straightforward: build this muscle, practice this hold, do this. Repeat. Again and again.

The hard part

It’s putting your soul into your dancing that is the hard part.

Dancing cannot happen without self-exploration. If you do not know yourself, if you are not comfortable with your feelings, with your sensations, with your being, you cannot achieve the heights you are capable of in dance.

But you have to do the work.

Maybe you need to work on getting comfortable with an audience. Maybe you need to work on getting out of your head and dancing from the heart.

Wherever you are, learning move after move, pose after pose, is not what will teach you to dance.

Push yourself.

Learning new moves will always feel exhilarating. It is exciting as hell to be able to hold yourself in a new way on the pole.

But go beyond that this time. Don’t settle for just being able to do the moves. And don’t settle for mimicking someone else’s idea of emotional intensity.

Figure out your own feelings so you can forge your own, personal dance style.

Sure, it takes more work. And, no, you can’t learn it from just watching someone else do it.

But you can learn it. You just have to go within first.

And once you do, nothing will be able to hold you back!

Coaching to bring out your personal dance style is what I do best – when you are ready to push yourself into the hard part of dancing, the real self-exploration, give me a shout.