When to Fire Your Pole Dance Instructor
Not all self-proclaimed pole instructors know how to teach pole – you want to make sure yours does.
1. You are getting weaker, not stronger.
Typically, pole classes make your muscles stronger. But if you are feeling like you can do less and less, that could be a red flag that your teacher isn’t giving you the proper building blocks for each move. Maybe you have been misunderstanding the instruction or maybe you have skipped a few steps – but if that isn’t the case, it’s time to consider moving on to better pastures – and better instruction.
2. You notice she’s all talk when it comes to safety.
Nothing is quite as spooky to me as instructors who talk endlessly about safety, but, when it gets down to the actual class, gloss right over it. I had one teacher who thought my problem was just being too scared to try new moves, so she just kept pushing. Uh no, teach, I wasn’t scared of the move; I instinctively knew my body wasn’t ready for it yet. Solution? I switched teachers – and now I can do those moves. Safely.
3. Your sensual dance style makes her uncomfortable.
Most pole teachers understand the sensual origins of the dance, but if yours is so divorced from the sexiness that she makes you feel you’re being inappropriate every time you circle your hips, it’s time to say goodbye.
4. You are made to feel stupid for not getting a move.
This is usually a case of the teacher not knowing any other way to explain the move – she feels stupid, so she makes you feel stupid. Dump her.
5. She’s more interested in being worshipped than helping you learn to pole.
Ah, the diva complex. Class isn’t really about teaching you to pole; it’s about teaching you the proper worshipping techniques. Seems to me it’s your money; take it elsewhere.
6. She uses your lessons to take care of studio chores.
Your class time is not the moment for her to be opening her mail. If she isn’t concentrating on you, find someone who will.
7. You realize you never are taken through a warm-up or cool down and that the main person on the pole is your instructor.
Let’s see … you’re not getting two essential components of each class and you’re never on the pole? What’s up with that? Move on.
Check back for the next in this series, When to Fire Your Pole Dance Student.